In September 2001, I was working for a federal agency in Flagstaff, Arizona. It is absolutely stunning there in September - deep blue skies, wispy clouds, and aspens starting to turn gold in the warm afternoons, before the nights grew cool. I fell in love with hiking by myself there, and would spend most afternoons and weekends exploring and just being in nature. This is a picture I took shortly after September 11, 2001 on one of my favorite trails. I don't know what you see when you … [Read more...] about Another empty sky day
This whole coronavirus thing is getting weird, ya'll. Like really, really weird. Yesterday I couldn't focus at work, at all. I was sitting in my cubicle all day, my mom at my house, visiting for spring break to help with the kids, who have been in spring break camp this week, but who we've kept home anyway since Wednesday to be with her and to not be around other humans. And today I just dropped her off at the airport to go home. I felt simultaneously both overzealous for asking her to … [Read more...] about sh*t’s getting weird. real weird.
A few days ago, I told my child's teacher after I completely spaced the parent-teacher conference we had scheduled, "I used to have my shit together, and then I became a parent. But I guess 6 years in to this parenting run, I suppose I can no longer claim my new normal is temporary." She didn't know me in my pre-parenting days, when I really was on time to things, and even occasionally organized. A time when I could string thoughts coherently, er, string coherent thoughts togetherly. While I … [Read more...] about Balancing my current work with my future work goals
The new French bistro down the street from my work is soooooooooo good. But, as it has just opened and my building is a bit off the beaten path, I find myself faced with an ethical dilemma. Do I: Tell everyone that it is a delightful little hidden gem and you should absolutely go there at every opportunity, running the risk that it will become as popular as it deserves to be, at the expense of me never having their cozy warm atmosphere all to myself again? - OR - Tell no … [Read more...] about unfiltered thoughts: an ethical dilemma
Yesterday I was lamenting about the difficulty of making new friends at work (among other things). Here's a perfect example. I have a coworker who I've often thought should be friends with me. So I followed what I think to be normal make-a-friend protocol: I introduced myself first, I have since chatted with her from time to time, sometimes at great length, I've IM'd her, and discovered tons that we have in common. We're both from the South, she used to work in the same field as My Better Half … [Read more...] about Good friends are hard to find
Here it is just after Labor Day and I have no idea where summer went. Oh, wait, I live in PHX so for all intents & purposes, it's still here, sticking its ugly thumb in my eye until at least Halloween. But the "fall" semester descended upon us a couple of weeks ago, and it is the. last. fall. semester. ever. Or it was supposed to be. My Better Half™ was supposed to graduate in December. Now that's up in the air. His committee needs time to read the thousand pages he's written or some … [Read more...] about duct taping it all together
The spring semester has wound down, and My Better Half™ decided after much deliberation to accept an offer of summer archaeological fieldwork. Normally this wouldn't even be an option, as the typical fieldwork schedule is 10 days away, 4 days at home, repeat. If you're lucky. But this year there happens to be a project within driving distance of where we live, so every morning he reports to the office at 5 a.m., commutes from there to the site, and then returns home at the end of each … [Read more...] about A fieldwork widow
This morning, sitting at my cube reading blogs as the coffee brewed, I read the improvised life's post "the work you do while you procrastinate is probably the work you should be doing for the rest of your life." I'm not sure where I come down on this one. Obviously sitting on-call in a cubicle 40 hours a week is not what I think I should be doing for the rest of my life, though I've got some clear ideas on what that is and while I've been taking small steps to get me from the cube-sitting to … [Read more...] about Unfiltered Thoughts: Procrastination
I don't know. I haven't actually *been* anywhere. Didn't go away since May for the summer. Or anywhere, really. I've just been working sitting at a desk in my cubicle. And getting sick. Repeat. I've been on 6 antibiotics since the spring, but I'm still fighting a chronic awful sinus infection (and periodic bouts of strep throat) that make me feel lousy. Just not lousy enough to stay home, but lousy enough to not be able to keep up with all my normal routines. Between working full-time sitting … [Read more...] about Where Have I Been?
Long after I’d had my baby and returned to work, I got asked if I could share my reflections on why I chose to be a working mom over a stay at home mom. Let me be clear: that ain’t what Laid Off & Knocked Up was about. I have curated a select few of my posts about being pregnant and unemployed and moved them here because my hope for 2012 was to resurrect and keep up more with my original blog, Funky-Ass Monkey, and I didn’t want to maintain two separate blogs. (Maintain is really the … [Read more...] about What’s This All About, Then?