The following are incompatible:
- Trying to catch up on sleep at any opportune moment while living in a household with
- a Dawdler Toddler who invents every excuse under the sun to delay bedtime (because that’s what toddlers do)
- a 7 month old who refuses to sleep through the night for no good reason whatsoever
– while also –
- Trying to relieve My Better Half™ of many parenting duties so as to permit him blocks of uninterrupted time and focus to write a dissertation.
The following are also incompatible:
- Trying to escape the soul-crushing pressure to finish a dissertation so that one can have free time again (aka, sleep, attend to the monstrously long honey-do chores list so our house does not fall down, and for the love of all that is holy, relax for the first time in months years)
– while also –
- Knowing that ‘free time’ should really be defined as the pressure of “hurry up and get a job, goddamnit!”
And, finally, the following are also incompatible:
- Trying to predict whether one will be able to find childcare on such short notice should one accept an offer of seasonal archaeological fieldwork
– or –
- Deciding to turn down said job offer in order to avoid bringing in a chess master to calculate and predict the matrix of childcare solutions such a job would require, with the hopes of finding another part-time job that may never materialize
Those who attempt to reconcile these incompatible goals report side effects including sleeplessness, restlessness, frustration, stress, loss of patience, and an inability to see the light at the end of the tunnel.